Bullshit, you can be mine
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I've found myself popping into the cinema on my own lately. I never used to do it and have started getting into it. Most recently I watched 'Walk the Line' about Johnny Cash. You're bound to read something written by someone referring to the documentary as a 'doccy'. I give full consent for you to hunt them down and beat them into subservience and to command them to massage your feet until the end of time. You can do the same with the people that refer to Chapman's Peak as "Chappies".

The movie was top-drawer and I found it interesting that they celebrated the fact that he fell in love with someone else after marrying the mother of his children. He proceeded to marry her (the other woman) and, as the audience, you are relieved that he does. Keep that in mind as I chat about another movie I watched today.

Today I watched The Family Stone. I basically dragged myself into the show. I pre-bought a ticket but nearly gave it up to brave the traffic heading to 'the other side" to get to the Riverclub driving range. I gave in and watched the movie. I hit it square on the nose. It's not often you watch a movie on your own and find yourself laughing out loud. Luke Wilson is an absolute beaut! But more important was the presentation to Seth of Rachel McAdams. I had seen her in other movies but never took her seriously as the mother of my children. Fair play, Rachel, you gave it a bloody good shot. I'll definitely keep my eye out for you.

Rachel McAdams - Seth's current 'look'

But then I noticed another celebration of a near life-changing fuck up. I'll semi-ruin the movie for you, but not too much. The movie is all about a big American family coming home for Christmas. The eldest child, Everett, brings along his girlfriend to whom he wishes to propose. By the end of the movie his brother has pumped her and Everett is married to her sister. And IT'S ALL ABSOLUTEY FINE! It fixes the problems the family are having and everyone is happier for it.

So here I am , late 20's, surrounded by weddings and divorces and kids and decisions; and two movies in a row are celebrating the near mistakes that people make - FOR THE REST OF THEIR LIVES. Do you think this creates a want for anyone to settle down? Of course it doesn't. And why are there two movies in a row with this similar theme? Because it's becoming more and more normal. These are people who were 'knocked off their feet' when they met there first wife/husband. The statement "you'll know when it's the right one" comes to mind. WELL CLEARLY YOU FUCKING DON'T! I am reminded of even more recent stories about couples who stay together, have kids, and carry on for 5 years. But then they get married and everything explodes after six months. Now there's an interesting phenomenon.

Marraige is one of our oldest traditions and yet it is the only tradition which hasn't changed or progressed or faded away as people have progressed. Everything else has moved with the times. Laws have changed. Equality springs to mind. There has been so much progress and tweaks have been made to a multitude of things so as to stay in tune with modern day. Marraige hasn't changed in the slightest. Can't we introduce some sort of a lease agreement? Wouldn't that be the most honest thing? A maximum of 10 years with an option to renew. I don't know, Darling, should we go for the five years and take it from there? Imagine if that sort of situation was the norm. People change so much from their twenties to their thirties to their foreties, it's almost unfair to the other person. If there was a five year lease then people would at least have to work towards a full five years. Any hiccups in the first three years would be worked out as they know they have to AT LEAST make it to five years. It's the FOREVER part that creates divorce. If you knew you could pull out happily after five years then there wouldn't be the fear of FOREVER which must surely play a role in people's quick decisions to cancel the agreement?

I won't go on about it, but give it some thought. Sometimes people strike it lucky, but perhaps we should err on the side of caution?

Keep those baby Nikes handy, Mom, they'll be pretty retro when baby Seth get's to wear them. God willing.

Seth Rotherham
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