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Don’t let the movies get to your head – the rich and famous also struggle with sex and love, just like every other Tom, Dick, and Sally.
In fact, quite a few celeb residents of one of the most prestigious communities in the US are seeking out sexperts to help improve their sexuation.
If you have money, you can probably afford to be sexy, but that doesn’t always guarantee great sex.
The Hamptons, the luxurious stretch of beach outside New York City, is known for hosting stars like Beyoncé, Jennifer Lopez, and Jon Bon Jovi in the summer.
Lee Phillips, the only certified sex therapist with a physical office in the area, per The Daily Beast, says business has been booming ever since he opened his Long Island location in August.
Phillips points out that while his celeb clientele is much the same as any old average Joe, their schedules and stress levels are where they really stand out (he forgot to mention the size of their bank accounts, obviously):
“When people become big or famous or wealthy, there’s a lot of pressure on them,” he told The Daily Beast. “Because they’ve got so many events to go to—there’s this charity event, there’s this one, there’s this one. I’m [on] camera, I’m getting my picture taken.”
“When I think of pressure that leads to more anxiety,” he added. “And of course that can cause them to have some sexual issues.”
Phillips – who specialises in “sex-positive” therapy, which welcomes clients from across the LGBTQ+ spectrum and various kink communities – says that exploring fetishes and/or opening up relationships has become increasingly popular since the COVID-19 pandemic.
Clearly, people just want to get their freak on after being so held back for so long.
It also plays into how generally, Hollywood has been leaning into the zeitgeist, or the other way around, with an unprecedented number of references to group sex popping up all over the show.
Phillips says his Hamptons clients tend to be older, more successful, and also more deep-seated in their varying issues:
“They’ve kept things in and now things are coming out.”
Unsurprisingly, those buried issues lead to a lot of problems in the bedroom.
“A lot of them are in sexless marriages,” he added. “Like, ‘We’ve been together for 10 years… and I still want to be sexual but I don’t think she wants to be sexual, or he wants to be sexual.’”
He also acknowledged that there is “also quite a bit of toxic masculinity out there”:
“What happens is when they get into the bedroom and they have something like an erectile challenge, they feel so defeated,” he said. “And they come into my office and they’re like, ‘Oh my God, I feel like I’m broken.”
Phillips says he walks them through the possible medical and emotional root causes, patting them on the back with a “You’re gonna be OK, buddy” and they may well be because it’s a common problem.
Generally, his clients suffer the same qualms as most people, despite their wealth and status.
Yep, that includes “breakdowns in communication, lingering resentments, and the other mundane issues of living with another person”.
He’s only just starting to work on the kink part of things with these clients, who he says are eager to talk about how it creates chasms in their relationships.
[source:dailybeast]
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