There have been various reports from young men who are obsessed with porn and how it affects their romantic lives, as they cannot find their fantasies in real life.
Emerging research into the biological effects of heavy pornography use suggest it may be tied to brain changes associated with impulsivity and an inability to delay gratification — alarmingly similar to what happens in drug addiction.
A safe assumption is that it’s the boys who get into porn first as seeing naked boobs are a fantastic discovery and, for girls, just a mere growing pain. But there are those who do discover sex through porn and see it as a way to attract boys / men. Here’s some information, which is a bit more female specific, to remember:
- Consent: It isn’t just about protecting herself; she can initiate and agree to sexual activity. But it also means she can say no to a specific sexual activity and yes to others, and most importantly she can change her mind and say yes and then no; and that in real life no means no. The pornographic fantasy of domineering men and submissive women is not helpful for the development of a girl’s healthy sexual self-esteem.
- Not everyone is like that: Not all guys have “bought in” to the ideas about sex in most pornography. Porn may be everywhere, but her values and confidence and individuality are still important.
- Learn your own boundaries: There can be a lot of pressure in male/female relationships and it’s important for parents to have an open dialogue with their daughters to help them learn their own boundaries, understand how they want to make decisions and know what they want from romantic relationships. That dialogue is too important to leave to pornography
Although porn is entering people’s lives earlier and earlier, it is important to remind young consumers that it is not reality. Porn makes sex a fantasy and, although that’s okay, it’s way more special – and fun – developing a sexual relationship with a real, consenting human being.
[source: time]
