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Would you and your partner go to a swinger’s party if invited?

To most couples, this question would be right up there with who contributes the most in the house, and just like the latter question, you would likely nervously look at your partner to answer first.

It’s going to take a bit of discussion, and if you are sitting with such an invite, a lot of honesty too.

There are over 40 000 registered swingers in South Africa. We use the word registered not because of some sex register located somewhere, but rather as the number of people who regularly frequent groups or organisations that promote, and host parties for those that follow the lifestyle.

And a lifestyle it definitely is. Swinging is not to be confused with open relationships. Where an open marriage allows both partners to pursue physical, and sometimes emotional relationships outside of their union, swinging is something that most couples do together. It is an event, and as most swingers will tell you, it can change the way you see sex and each other.

Whether for the good, is entirely up to you and your partner, and therein lies the honesty part.

South Africa has no shortage of swinger clubs, and thanks to Hot Night Out, most of these venues are now easily browsable through their community of partners.

“As we move through the 21st century, one thing has become clear, censorship is prevalent and increasing. Restrictive community guidelines are quick to block entrepreneurs who take a different approach.”

Their platform provides a vetted and safe space for people who are interested in exploring their sexuality within and outside of a relationship, and as you browse the swingers section, you begin to see that swinger parties are often as established and organised as most other entertainment offerings found in ‘regular’ media.

“We will never censor any content if it is legal and does not promote hate or abuse.
Our website is dedicated to the naughty and adventurous.”

Discretion is key, and part of the reason why these parties are not advertised via flyers on your windshield. Most parties accept applications that are vetted before invitations are sent. This way, good behaviour and attitude get you an invite, and being a jerk gets you blacklisted.

For women especially, curated swinger parties can be a safe space where their likes and dislikes are respected. Some clubs don’t allow men to initiate, or ‘chat up’ the ladies and it gives them the power to choose who they wish to connect with.

Swinging in Cape Town is often perceived to be less common than in Gauteng, but that is mostly due to the number of private parties held, rather than a lack of participants. It is for this reason that Hot Night Out has become so popular amongst both businesses and individuals, by drawing like-minded peeps together in a curated and professional platform where everyone knows what’s on offer, and where to find it.

Most of the swinging venues will have everything you need for a night of raunchy fun, from stripper poles, cages, and stages for erotic dancing, or even a dark room where you can feel your way in total anonymity.

Is swinging for everyone? Most certainly not. But there are more and more couples being turned on to the lifestyle in the 21st century.

With more than 80 listings in their Swingers Directory, Hot Night Out will have the kink you want, need, or don’t even know you have.

Yet.