A blesser relationship is one where an older man (sugar daddy) takes financial care of a younger woman (sugar baby).

These relationships have avoided the tag of prostitution for years because they are often long-term and mutually exclusive.

A young woman who is struggling to pay her rent or college fees, or struggling to maintain her lifestyle, might exchange her company, time and body to have these needs taken care of by a financially viable older man.

In Minnesota, the appeals court is currently hearing a case between a sugar daddy and his former sugar baby, who claims that the older man harassed her on social media when she declined to behave like a traditional girlfriend.

Here’s RadioGunk:

Shawdy Kiani, the plaintiff in the Minnesota case, met 30-something John Huha on the website in early 2017, when she was a 20-year-old college student at the University of Minnesota. The two engaged in a four-month, long-distance relationship consisting largely of vacations—paid for by Huha—during which they would have sex, according to court documents.

Kiani said that she was always sceptical of the amount of time that Huha wanted to spend with her. After they met for the first time in Pittsburgh, she told The Daily Beast, he started texting her about going to dental school in the city so they could spend more time together.

When she didn’t respond to his attempts to make plans the following weekend, he showed up unannounced at her campus.

It became clear during a spring break getaway to Miami that Huha wanted something more from the relationship, while Kiani did not. She made her first attempt at ending the relationship, but eventually agreed to continue seeing him, under the condition that it be a “real sugar baby/sugar daddy relationship.”

Here’s a text exchange between Huha and Kiani from before things went south:

“I said we can meet two weekends a month and then you would like help me out financially,”  she said in a message included in court filings.

Huha reacted badly to this suggestion. When Kiani realised that the drunken sex she claims they had their first night in Pittsburgh could constitute an assault, she decided to end the relationship for good.

“You took advantage of me… making me have sex with you and getting mad when I didn’t,” she texted him at one point, according to screenshots obtained by The Daily Beast.

Here’s a screenshot of a text conversation between Huha and Kiani after court proceedings started:

Huha’s attorney told The Daily Beast he denies the allegations. A district court found Kiani’s claims of sexual assault not credible, citing her demeanour on the witness stand and the fact that she had not reported the alleged assault to authorities.

When the relationship ended, Huha set up a public Instagram page dedicated to his time spent with Kiani, including screenshots of their text conversations. He tagged her in all of the pictures.

“You notice that my Instagram is now public, right? Also it identifies you in the caption…” he texted her, according to screenshots obtained by The Daily Beast. “You can call a truce anytime you like, because I’m only just beginning.”

The Instagram account outed Kiani as a sugar-baby to her conservative family, whom she is now estranged from. She obtained a restraining order against Huha, although the Instagram account where he documented their relationship is still live.

A number of women have come forward in the wake of #MeToo claiming that they have been sexually assaulted while using sugar dating websites, calling into question whether these relationships are safe for young women.

Whatever you’re doing, and however you’re doing it, be safe out there.

[source:radiogunk&dailybeast]