Doing the clickbait rounds this week is a letter from bride-to-be Alex, who wrote an email to her bridesmaid Courtney, asking her to relinquish her duties.

The back story is that the bridesmaid is so snowed under with Business School that she’s only able to make it to the wedding on the day. The bride wants her bridesmaids to actually participate in the events leading up to the altar, so she asked Courtney to step down and return the jumpsuit that she was going to wear.

The Huffington Post, among others, is calling the letter “awkward and passive aggressive”, with the bride saying unforgivable things like:

I know how hard you’re working to be here for the wedding and it means so much to us!

I have a massive favor to ask you, though — and this is one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to ask anyone — but I need to ask you to relinquish your duties as a bridesmaid.

And:

Please don’t feel you’re letting me down, I am asking you to do this. I love you and value your friendship so much and I fully understand the need for you to prioritize school! I want you to be able to focus on that without also worrying about any extra wedding worries.

And I know this is incredibly awkward, but there is a possibility that I might be able to have someone else step into the role and assume the duties. Could you please mail the jumpsuit to me? I’ll Venmo you the postage and the cost of the jumpsuit — just let me know the total.

The shade of it all.

Seriously though, the email really isn’t as bad as everyone is making it out to be.

If you want some real bridezilla action, check out the list of instructions that a bride sent her bridesmaids a while back. The Knot has the full list, but here are some highlights:

No-one can be skinnier than the bride. That means Kelly and Lizzie will be on a protein weight gainer diet exclusively until May. I will have the nutritionist call you to discuss diet plans…

Say goodbye to that summer body Kelly and Lizzy – and have fun with this rule:

Swimwear attire: I would like everyone to wear matching bikinis that have rhinestones on the tushie spelling out “maids,” which brings me to my next point.

All bikinis leading up to the wedding must be strapless bandeaus. I cannot have terrible tan lines in strapless dresses…

It gets worse. The bridesmaids have to follow a strict bedtime routine, have regular weigh-ins and no new tattoos.

Plot twist –  the list is supposedly a joke… sort of…

Either way, the relationship between a bride and her bridesmaids is a notoriously tense one, from ugly dresses to on-the-day meltdowns.

Whether or not we should care is a different story.

[sources:huffpost&theknot]