This was me a few weeks ago while attending a wedding up in Johannesburg.

The group of friends I was with happen to be addicted to taking photos, mainly because they are either professional photographers or tech geeks who dig a photo challenge.

It’s the perfect way to ensure we have memories, but throughout the wedding we each had to restrain ourselves when it came to capturing certain moments, or sharing them on social media. We had no guidebook, so all we could do was monitor each other.

But what are the rules?

It’s hard to say, as each wedding is different, but if we had to treat Tatler as the wedding etiquette bible, here’s what they would suggest when it comes to using social media at weddings:

Play by the rules

Basically, if you’re asked at any point, whether it’s in an email, on the invitation or on the day itself, not to post onto social media, then be a good human and do as you’re told.

Hashtags

Social media-savvy couples might suggest a hashtag, and if that’s the case use it in every post you make. And hey, you might even start trending on Twitter.

Getting ready

No images of the bride shall be posted to social media before she has appeared before the groom. Unless, of course, she has given her express permission for you to do so.

No-go areas

Speeches and vows. Don’t film them, watch them. Laugh, clap, cheer, cry. But with your own eyes, not through a tiny screen.

Drunkenness

Do you consider yourself a nice person? Well, perhaps you should keep those videos and photographs of a drunk bride or groom to yourself. No one wants the whole world to know they were vomiting in a kitchen bin on their wedding night.

Most importantly of all

With every photograph, ask if either the bride or groom looks flattering. Even if it’s the only good shot of you, this is her day not yours. I repeat, not yours.

Last one from me

Get out of the hired photographer’s way! Seriously.

And, with that, hopefully you will be prepared for your next wedding event.

[source:tatler]