Happy long weekend, let’s go out with a bang.

I’d say you probably only want to forward this one to a good friend, rather than an acquaintance at work who moans during lunch.

Hey, just trying to keep your workplace morale at an acceptable level.

The world is full of relationship advice, but New York therapist Rachel Sussman is regarded as something of an expert on the matter.

She shared her top five tips to strengthen a marriage with BusinessInsider, and because we want you to be happy we’ll pass them your way.

1. Perform small acts of kindness

Buy their favorite [sic] dessert on your way home, memorize their coffee order, or pick up the dry cleaning. A little bit goes a long way.

“It’s really those little things that make you feel like ‘Wow, this person really cares about me, this person has my back,'” said Sussman.

2. Be your best self

Sussman said that many people take their partners for granted, which can lead to hurt feelings.

“I’m really big on telling couples that you’re very lucky, that you found this person that you love and that you have to cherish them,” she said. “Just like a job that you love — if you don’t want to get fired, you have to go to work every single day and be your best possible self.”

3. Check in when you’re going out

Having your own friends and activities is important, but you don’t have to shut your partner out completely.

“A lot of the complaints I hear from people is that when their partner goes out with their friends they disappear,” she said. “It’s not like you’ve got to be texting them every second, but it’s okay to say ‘I miss you’ or ‘Hope you’re having a great night, should be home by midnight.'”

4. Disagree respectfully

Arguments happen. The key is to argue while respecting your partner’s point of view.

“Couples can certainly have a different opinion in something — you have to just be respectful,” she said. “Like, ‘Wow, I never really thought of it like that before,’ or ‘That’s an interesting perspective, it’s not necessarily my perspective, but … I’ll think about it, and I’d like you to think about my perspective too.'”

5. Seek help during rough patches

If you can’t work things out and it’s taking a toll on your relationship, getting a neutral third party involved can help resolve recurring issues.

“The problem with a rough patch is unless you work on it, it just gets rougher and rougher,” said Sussman. “If you feel like you’re in a rough patch, things aren’t going well, go have a couple of sessions with a counselor. The counselor might help you flesh out what’s going on and put you to a better path.”

It all sounds so simple, doesn’t it?

Good luck implementing that advice above, especially that bit about disagreeing respectfully.

[source:businessinsider]