Remember years ago when being naughty meant having a few well-worn magazines stashed under your bed?

How times have changed, and over the years so has the way we talk about accessories like sex toys. Once a dirty secret that was hidden under clothes in a secret drawer somewhere, sex toys and accessories are now something that we can discuss without fear of a dirty sideways glance.

Perhaps we owe E.L James and all her shades of grey for some of that, but whatever the case we’ve come a long way.

Of course it helps to visit a store (and website) that isn’t stuck in the late 90’s, with tacky neon signs and squalid back rooms the calling card of one too many Cape Town adult stores.

Enough we say, it’s time to grow up – and thankfully one store is leading the way.

Désir is an adult store headquarterd in Camps Bay and run by an incredible team of progressive entrepreneurs who, in 2012, recognised the need to provide customers access to the most luxurious and sophisticated adult toys from all over the globe.

They aim to remove the social stigmas around purchasing and owning sex toys. Each of their products is carefully vetted and well-researched, ensuring that every item meets the highest standard of sensual luxury.

That’s why their slogan is ‘Honour Yourself’ – we could all use a little of that from time to time me thinks.

So exactly what sex toys and accessories are South Africans snapping up then? Let’s take a look at Désir’s three biggest sellers:

Hugo Male Prostate Massager

The Hugo prostate massager is one of a kind – its remote control functionality allows you the option to control the vibes and intensity, giving you the perfect hands free experience.

The Hugo is designed to increase the size and intensity of the male climax by 30%, providing you with the most explosive orgasmic experience. Perfect for either solo or couple play, so remember to use your favourite lube.

Kissing Swan Vibrator

Swan’s Kissing Massager is one of the most luxurious and promising rabbit vibrators. What makes this vibrator extra special is its rotating internal shaft which gentle circles and massages you internally, whilst providing direct stimulation to the entire G-Spot region.

What’s even better is that you are able to adjust the controls to allow you to have only clitoral vibrations on at the beginning, or activating the internal stimulator near the end, or to have both sensations at the same time to provide you with the ultimate in dual orgasmic sensations.

This toy packs six hours of play and a separate control of vibration and rotation levels so come ready.

We-Vibe 4 Plus

South Africa’s  number one couples vibrator, which has a lot to with its ease of use.

With the We-Vibe 4 Plus, couples can connect in new and exciting ways via an iPhone and Android App. Whether near or far, allow your partner to control your vibes, guaranteeing a unique sexual experience.

This gem is a definite must sex toy for couples, looking to add some excitement into their daily routine.

That was rather intriguing – how about that prostate massager gents?

It’s always worth doing a little exploring yourself, I suggest heading over to their site (HERE) and doing a little digging.

This isn’t the dark ages you see, time to embrace some of the finer things in life. To celebrate this we have a little competition running with Désir to tickle your fancy, HERE.

For those who enjoy visual stimulation they also have a fantastic Pinterest page, with each board packed full of goodies. You can also follow Désir on Facebook HERE.